Tagline: Welcome to Reality, Sex is certainly not like what you see in the films.

The Internet is a place where you can find anything at the quick click of a mouse. Within seconds, the Google Search Bar can provide with a vivid selection of dirty fantasies, some that you may well have thought could never have been brought to reality. But there they are. As long as Rule 34, Pornography will always be there to fire up the lusts of men and women alike.

Whilst Pornography is undeniably useful in its own way, especially when it comes to self-stimulation, the problem comes when Pornographs shapes our perception of how we should view the act of sex itself. Pornography Addiction is a real problem. Too much of it can lead to the automatic assumption that every sexual encounter we have (in the present or the future) should lead to a earth-shattering orgasm that will leave you twitching on the bed. Sex is not actually like this, and we should not base all of our Sexual Expectations on what we see in Adult Movies. Have some confidence in yourself and know that you will grow into your own Romantic Adonis or Venus, with or without the influence of Adult Content.

Am I good Enough?

The first thing you need to know about Adult Content is that the majority of it is overly-exaggerated. Whether the sexual content is in the form of pictures or videos, every pose, act and situation has be scripted to appeal to the erotic senses of an audience. There is no fun in watching sex if the couple is going to simply lie there like two rocks. No, as an audience, we want more. We want to hear over-the-top moaning, dirty talk, insane positions and dominative/submissive sexual tactics. We want to see imagery and footage that can take us out of our every day lives and replace one of the actors with our fantasy self.

Our Fantasy Self is someone who is Sexual God. They are always at their peak of sensuality and are ready to fully satisfy their partners. We want to imagine ourselves doing this because it makes us feel good and self-confident. The things we see on the screen gives us ideas about how we can express our sexual desires in real life. But the problem suddenly comes around when the act of sex is brought out of the screen, and is placed in real life.

Once someone is in a sexual situation, it suddenly becomes evident that not all sexual encounters go the same way that movies and photos potray sex. It is certainly not as easy as pornography makes it look like, as penetration in general can be a bit of a messy process, especially if you are still a novice to the sexual scene in general. You will find that you certainly cannot re-create what you have seen in films, and you may instinctively start to worry about whether or not you are actually pleasing your partner. This may lead to the ultimate hair-raising question that you can ask yourself during this time:

Am I Good Enough?

The last thing you ever want to think about during a sexual encounter is that you are not good enough to please your partner. This can really ruin the intimate feeling of the evening, especially if you start looking for ways to end the encounter. Self-Confidence is something that every person finds sexy, especially if it can be used to heighten the passion of the encounter. The last thing that you want to do is self-sabotage when you are in the comforting embrace of another person. So try not to think about what you have seen on the internet. Instead, consider what feels natural and makes you happy.

Just because your partner is not writhing underneath you does not mean that they are not enjoying themselves. Some of the most passionate sex can occur with there only being a few soft moans being heard. So take your time find your feet. If you do start to feel yourself losing confidence in yourself, don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about it. For they might be able to unlock your inner alpha with just a few sexually charged words. If not, then they will be able to provide you with the comfort to make sure you feel better about yourself.

The Porn Star Experience

Continuing on from the previous point, you may be wondering how Pornography can warp our expectations about what sex should actually be like. A Porn Star Experience (PSE) may turn a sexual situation into something that is completely out of the ordinary. Staring two exceptionally hot Porn Stars, this couple will be extremely experienced when it comes to adult films, and will know how to use their bodies to maintain a sense of eroticism throughout the filming. They will moan loudly, beg for certain sexual acts, shout to express their pleasure or have sex in a range of positions they simply are not possible in real life, not without the gentleman of the relationship (if there is one) losing his erection by withdrawing.

Whilst this may not happen to all porn watchers, as a little bit of porn in life will ultimately do no harm, if the pornography becomes an additiction, there is a high chance that the user may have a dysfunctional sex life in the future. Pornography should not have such a hold over people that it actually starts to affect their relationships. Should you find that you start to prefer the company of pornography over the embrace of another person, and you have not come out as asexual or aromantic, then you may be starting to lose yourself to a fantasy world.

You may start to feel like you can only really relieve yourself by remaining in this fantasy world, meaning that you start to withdraw from sexual activity or even emotional connectivity to his partner. This is a method of control, as it allows the addict to maintain their sexual illusion and allows them to hide away from any chance of revealing that they are not as sexually astute as their fantasy lead them to believe.

A way to relieve this is to always spend time with your partner, or at least away from the screen. If you are interested in masturbating, then do it away from the computer screen. That way you can at least draw yourself back into the real world whilst maintaining your connection with others and with yourself.

The Playboy Philosphy

Pornography is diverse in its topics. After all, it has all of humanity’s sexual desires to cater to. That means that it holds a lot more than just a romantic scenarios. Instead, if you look into hard core pornography, will see a lot of scenarios relating to the domination and sexualisation of women and their bodies.

Naturally, you may assume that this is normal because that is what pornography is for. It is used to sexualised all bodies within the video so that the viewer can sexually relieve themselves. Whilst this is fine for the occasional perusal of Pornography, for someone who finds themselves depending on Adult Content for Sexual Relief, it may start to make them think about women (and even men) as tools that are solely used for sexual gratification, thus they may never be interested in actually forming a romantic connection with a new partner.

This is what is known as a “Playboy Philosphy”, holding the idea that every woman (or man) is available to be used whenever the person wants to use them. You can use people for instant sexual gratifaction, but outside of that there is not much else that you can expect from them. This is the sort of mentality that seeps over into Adult Industries all the time, such as within the Escorting Agency, where young women and men will find that their clients may become extremely demanding in relation to sex and what they expect from them. That is why it is up to Escorting Agencies, such as Passion London, to protect their companions from these sort of people.

Whilst sexually agressive clients are not all born from watching pornography, as that would lead to a stereotype that anyone who watches adult content is immediately “dangerous”, there are certain flavours of pornography that can influence the mentality of a Pornography Addict. Most may not be self aware, but if you see someone that may be struggling with a Pornography Addiction, the best thing you can do is to start to talk to them about it. Do not instantly judge them or embarrass them about it. As this may make them retreat from the conversation or grow aggressive. Simply turn it into a discussion and see if the person listens.

A Growing Dependency

Final Thoughts

Let’s get one thing straight. Pornography is not something that is ultimately bad. In fact, it can be a fantastic tool for self-pleasure, as well as provide couples with a new sexual medium for foreplay. Pornography can provide us with a new fantasy that we can bring out of the screen to try out on our partners. Of course, we will not be as astute as the porn actors themselves, but it will be enough to allow something new to enter our sex lives and help us enjoy ourselves for the evening

The overall message is to not allow Pornography to become an addiction. It is great for your sexual health and emotional mind state in small doses. But once you start to feel dependent on it. That is the time when you should consider click away from your browser and shutting your computer down for a few hours.